Tuesday, June 7, 2016

Girlfriend

I have a boyfriend.

Today my guy and I celebrated being a couple for 29 years. Crazy, right?! Yes, were just kids when we started dating. My "freshman-on-the-varsity-swim-team" guy I was smitten with, I still am.

This guy has been with me through it all. High school, college, jobs, moves, babies, miscarriage, more college, raising kids, raising dogs, budgeting, buying, living life.

I found someone who was an answer to prayer. Kind, thoughtful, funny, emotionally strong, ethical, the hardest worker I know, Mr. Tetris-brain, my Mr. Fix-it, amazing father, my heart, my best friend.

When you find your other half, it just works. It is not always easy. In fact, it takes work and lots of it. Be honest and true. Be vulnerable and unselfish. Share. Grow. Love.

There is no secret to a life-long love relationship. Pray for wisdom and guidance. Pray for peace and a heart that is understanding. Pray to love them as they are, not who you want them to be. Pray.

My best advice is this. Continue to date your love. Make time together a priority. Put away distractions and focus on each other. Enjoy one another's company by constantly being a student of them. Ask questions. Listen to understand. Laugh together. Spend time doing activites together, and not just something they like. Together, do things you both enjoy. 

I have learned it is okay to let each person pursue their own interests, but not at the expense of the relationship. I love reading. My guy loves to tinker. Giving each other allowances of time helps us enjoy our quality time together. 

It has been years of figuring out the nuances that makes this work. A never-ending commitment to continue to grow, improve, and enjoy life together has kept our relationship strong. We don't always get it right. We argue. We disagree. We agree to disagree. We talk. Communicate. Compromise. Listen. The relationship is bigger than our egos and our selfish wants. It has to be. 

I want the next 29 years with my boyfriend to be even better than the last. I want my children to find their life-loves. I pray for their future spouses. I pray for mine. Daily. 

My boyfriend. Yea, he's a keeper. 😆❤

Be blessed,
Susan

Thursday, June 2, 2016

Blessed - Family Ties

Life is precious. This weekend I am attending the funeral of a lovely family member. She was so beloved by those who knew her. My mom named me for her sister and this sweet cousin. Full of southern charm and sass! With a sweet hug your worries melted away and her kind words were a salve to a wounded heart.

She raised two amazing women whom I love and can call them both family and friends. Isn't that the best? When we were playmates as kids, once in a blue moon to meet with and bond with, and feel this amazing connection throughout the years. Family ties that bind. I get it. I am bound to these wonderful people. And I love it.

It is sad it takes a death to get us together to pay our respects. Lives on different coasts. But I love these people. With my core. When we are together there is this knowing, this understanding. Genetics at work people! Phrases, sayings, expressions, mannerisms, so many similarities. The threads of our ancestors ties us together.  

At the same time my immediate family is celebrating milestones at home. I am missing them, but they understand.  Graduations and promotions to the next grade. These kids, those of mine and my sisters have my heart. I am oozing with pride at their accomplishments. Great children of the King. Hearts of love. Heads of knowledge.  We have created families and cousins that love each other like siblings. Our cousins were not near is growing up so it was so important to have our kids know and be with each other.

So while we honor and celebrate the life of an amazing woman, my hope is to connect again with my kin, my clan, my family. Blessed. Truly blessed.

As my sweet Uncle says, "God is good. All the time. No matter what."

Squeeze the ones you love.
Be blessed today.

~Susan 💜💜